Rome Wasn’t Built in a Day? Really? By Jean Harper
Are you a procrastinator? Procrastination might reveal something about your behavior you should have noticed by now, like something which keeps getting between you and the things you want to accomplish.
When we were young, we had so many plans. Do you recall how your dreams and possibilities seemed endless? Then as we went about playing, thinking that we have so much time ahead, we set those dreams and possibilities aside and enjoyed our youth to the fullest making it easy to just sit back and relax. In adulthood we found ourselves with less and less time to relax and in these current times it seems to be harder than ever.
While relaxation may be a healthy attitude, some of us take relaxation to a whole new level. We procrastinate and set our planning to another day until that day comes and goes. Then suddenly we find ourselves grown up with no clear direction in our lives.
Are you an overachiever? Individuals who are considered to be overachievers are those with the drive to complete tasks above and beyond expectations and who set very high goals for themselves. I have spent most of my life as one of those “overachievers” and for the most part it has worked well for me. However, being an overachiever has also caused me difficulties for as I have gotten older I have heard my friends tell me many times to “Lighten up” and to just “Let go” and for an overachiever like me that is difficult.
Whether you are a procrastinator, an overachiever or somewhere in the middle, letting go may be difficult in times of stress. Eckhart Tolle believes we replay past mistakes over and over again in our head, allowing feelings of shame and regret to mold our actions in the present. We cling to frustration and worry about the future, as if these actions somehow give us power. We hold stress in our minds and bodies, potentially creating serious health issue and accept that state of tension as the norm. I understand this state-of-mind first hand and it is my current mission to learn how to “Let go.” Finally, I feel like I am gaining some ground in this area.
Mary Manin Morrissey, an author and speaker quotes the Tao and adds, “The Tao Te Ching says, ‘When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need.’ Have you ever struggled to find work or love, only to find them after you have given up? This is the paradox of letting go. Let go, in order to achieve. Letting go is God’s law.”
My good friend has shared with me many times how when she finally let go, her life changed and more possibilities opened up for her.As someone who has made a lot of mistakes or better put learned some hard lessons in my life, I've often found myself thinking about the past and some of the decisions I could have made and the different paths I could have walked down. I'm sure many of you have felt this way as well. Thoughts would creep up in my head like, "If only I'd said that", “I shouldn’t have done that" and so on.
When I started the Moxy Women website in 2007, I believed that I could build something fast because I had a dream and could clearly see it coming together. Everything else I set out to do in my life had been a success and so I thought this would be as well. I was soon to discover the biggest task of my life, my new found passion, was not going to be easy and after investing most of my life’s savings to build my vision--I almost gave up.
My first big event a few years ago, which took an enormous amount of work, effort and expense to put together, was not so well attended. It was an incredible event and many of those who were fortunate enough to attend the event still talk about it today. However, there were many circumstances beyond my “overachieving” mind’s control happening and this interfered with the attendance. Many thought I would and should give up after that, but I couldn’t and I am glad that I didn’t. Each year I have tried something new and each time more people come and now I know that “Rome Wasn’t Built in a Day.” I discovered patience I did not know existed in my “overachiever” mind. Then there was a new lesson to learn and it would be the biggest and most important of all.
When I announced this year’s event, The Moxy Miracle Concert and Healthy Living Expo, I received several messages from some of my past supporters giving me accolades for continuing with my dream and vision and for not giving up when others might have. I appreciate their support and well wishes and those messages gave me a sense of contentment with my decision.
So, I say, “Rome Wasn’t Built in a Day” and I do believe that one day very large numbers of Moxy Women from around the world will come together to celebrate through music, dance and a sharing of lessons learned and that I will be there with you to share the day. I believe that “letting go” is the key and so I let go and know that all is well and good. Mind you, there are many plans in place and much to do before this year’s “Believe in Miracles” event opens in August. The “overachiever” is at work, but being guided with more patience, knowledge, and even a touch of “procrastination” this time. By the time July rolls around I know I will be empowered by this simple action of “letting go!”
I hope you will join me in August along with the many gifted performers and mentors that will come together to create the biggest “miracle” of our life, letting go.